Life Tips
For My Daughter
Contents
Femininity
Habits
Push Yourself
Mindset & Learning
On Style
Men
Environment
How to Be a Better Writer
Books To Read
To My Dearest Daughter,
First and foremost, I love you no matter what, am your biggest fan, and love seeing you grow, learn, and succeed.
I write this guide to help you a bit on the adventure of life. I may not be here to teach you some of these lessons. That’s why I wrote this. Some of these truths will make you/others feel uncomfortable. It’s ok, real truths are hard for some to hear.
Love, Dad.
On femininity:
The positive feminine is a beautiful thing, and naturally elicits the kind of good treatment and special attention women innately crave.
Being in touch with and cultivating your femininity is a key to a happy life.
Charm and grace can make even the plainest woman attractive, but arrogance makes the most beautiful women repulsive.
Habits:
What you do each day/week is who you are. Having good habits and growing daily will put you on a great path. Inversely, having bad habits(watching news/porn, drinking alcohol/consuming drugs, too much video games) can devour years of your blessed life. Avoid them.
—----------------------------------------------------------from @Naval
Fast, lift, sprint, stretch, and meditate.
Build, sell, write, create, invest, and own.
Read, reflect, love, seek truth, and ignore society.
Make these habits. Say no to everything else.
Avoid debt, jail, addiction, disgrace, shortcuts, and media.
Relax. Victory is assured.
—----------------------------------------------------------
Habits that have a high rate of return in life:
sleep 8+ hours each day
exercise 3x week
go for a walk each day
save and invest at least 10 percent of your income
read/learn every day
work on problems/skills that compound.
drink more water and less of everything else
leave your phone in another room while you work
Push yourself:
You can push a lot harder than you think.
How do I know this?
Because your ancestors (and mine) survived plagues, famines, wars, natural disasters, and a whole host of other nasty stuff.
Survivorship is in our DNA.
You think your problems are bad? Read Night by Ellie Wiesel.
On potential:
You are capable of WAY more than you think. Push yourself as hard as you can, and keep going. Struggling and mistakes are an important part of how we learn. As long as you’re learning, you’re not failing. The Fear of Embarrassment murders Growth. Keep. Going.
There are few problems in your life that you couldn't solve with the right mixture of aggression, discipline, and focus.
Competition
Push yourself to do the things you're scared to do, but know are good for you.
“Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who somebody else is today.” - Jordan Peterson
Your competition isn't other people. Your competition is:
-Your procrastination
-Your ego
-The knowledge you neglect to learn
-The antisocial behavior you're nurturing
-The unhealthy food you constantly consume
-Your lack of creativity
Competition is a good thing. It makes us stronger. It makes us excellent.
Life isn’t fair. Do the best you can with what you have.
Purpose:
Kid says, "I don't know what to do"
That's ok. nobody does. Go DO something. Do the best thing you can think of. Put the best plan you have into practice. It's not going to be perfect, and it will change along the way. As you become wiser, you will be able to build better and better plans.
"I don't know what I want to do with my Life"
Start by Writing down your own Obituary.
To do so, Ask yourself :
1. How do I want to be Remembered ?
2. What did I Create?
3. How did I LIVE my Life?
Some Big Clues in these Answers.
"I don't know what my Purpose is". Hold off on your 'Purpose'.
Ask : What am I curious about?
What holds my Attention?
What Fascinates me?
What do I want to know more about?
Who do I enjoy helping?
Find your 'Interest' first. Pursue it- Become Competent. Purpose will Develop.
How to improve your life:
Dress better
Eat healthier
Train harder
Read more
Laugh more
Complain less
Help others
Be grateful
Check your ego
Find the right man, and have a family.
Improve yourself so you can improve your family, improve your family so you can improve your society.
Mindset & Learning
Power mindset shifts. Aim towards the mindset of the person on the right:
Consumer-->Producer
Employee-->Entrepreneur
Survivor-->Thriver
Scarcity-->Abundance
Revenge-->Forgiveness
Fear-->Love
Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm”. Now, the word ‘enthusiasm’ derives from the ancient Greek for ‘To be filled with God’. Go through life and your days with an unwavering and positive spirit.
Don’t be a hater(the
guy on the left). They’re often complaining, nitpicking, comparing, and seldom
are happy. They share negative poison with the world. Avoid these people.
Think positively Aleah. Your name means “exalted, God’s being.” God wants you smiling, enjoying, and making this world more beautiful.
What to learn:
The Five Greatest Skills
Reading
Writing
Arithmetic
Speaking/Persuasion
Computer Programming
If you’re going to go to college, I recommend to study Computer Science, Math, the Sciences(physics/chem/(possibly bio if wanting to go into medicine), or Engineering. Also, regardless of what you study, become skilled in the five above for more power.
“Learn to Sell. Learn to Build. If you can do both, you’ll be unstoppable.”-Naval
Don’t be afraid to start your own business. Starting my own business was one of the most fun and rewarding experiences of my life.
Also, this should be mandatory reading for young professionals.
On Planning Your Future:
Plan your future. Write a story of your life. Author your future. Aim towards it. Have a vision. Where do you want to be in 1 year? In 5 years? You are capable of greatness.
Do you write down your goals? Every year, write down your goals of what you want to learn/do in this coming year. Write down how you’re going to achieve those goals. Change your habits/systems to achieve your aim.
On Leadership:
Read ‘How to win friends and gain influence” - Dale Carnegie.
Read ‘Extreme Ownership’ by Jocko Willink
How to be a friend:
Be the biggest fan of the people you care about.
Defend them.
Keep the hope alive.
Make them look good.
Catch them when they fall.
Be there when they need you.
Root for them unconditionally.
Help them accomplish their dreams.
Always be 100% honest and truthful with them.
Best friends are loyal and will be there for you, no matter what.
Style
Aesthetics and Beauty Matter. There are many things you can do to make yourself and your appearance more beautiful. Dress like the woman you want to be. When you look good, you feel good. You execute better. When you dress well, people will treat you differently and more opportunities will come your way.
Beauty is objective:
External Beauty Tips:
No Short Hair
Natural Hair Colors
Skirts and Dresses
Appropriate Makeup
No Tatoos
Only Ear Piercings
Good hygiene
Internal Beauty Tips:
Grace.
Kindhearted.
Sweetness.
Modesty.
Appreciative.
Good Manners.
Warm and loving.
Never be jealous if you see another beautiful woman. Just do the best with what you have. I was bald when I was 18 years old, and always loved and believed in myself. If someone doesn’t like you for who you are, dismiss them. Forget those people. Surround yourself with people who love you and have positive energy. You are beautiful Aleah.
Men:
Men Propose, Women Dispose.
Men don’t care much about your job, salary or education. They do care about your looks and personality.
Modesty and Grace are two of the most attractive qualities in women.
Never let your man mistreat you or undervalue you.
Do not marry a man who takes the idea of a divorce lightly.
Don't marry someone you don't want to be your kids' father and don't sleep with someone you don't want to marry.
The man you marry and have kids with is one of THE most important decisions of your life. So choose carefully.
You can choose your husband but your kids can’t choose their father. Choosing a good dad for your future kids is your responsibility and it’s not one that you should take lightly.
Men don’t get aroused when they see a woman bench 200, climb the corporate ladder, or win a race. We’re aroused by the feminine, not the masculine. Want a man’s attention? Show us your softness, your kindness, your grace, and your beauty.
Having many partners lowers your value in the eyes of men, and definitely makes you less marriageable. Our current society/culture/music tries to convince/program women that it’s ok to share your body freely. This is an evil trick played on women to devalue themselves. Your body is yours. You should only share it with a very important man that is very committed to you.
Advice For Women: How To Land a Great Guy:
1) Be in shape
2) Grow your hair long
3) Be sweet
4) Learn to cook
5) Don't be annoying (talking too much without listening, being loud)
Dating tips:
Say yes to dates, but say no to most relationships. You can generally tell if you're compatible with someone in a few dates, sometimes on the first one if your intuition is sharp. It’s ok to give a good man a chance, but be very selective in picking one for a relationship.
DO
• grow your hair long
• wear skirts and dresses
• learn to cook healthy food
• sit with your legs closed
• smile for pictures
DON'T
• get tattoos
• pierce anything but your ears.
• stick out your tongue for pictures
• sleep with strangers
Man sees love in respect; woman sees love in care. If any of these is missing it won't work.
What good men look for in high value women:
+family oriented
+good relationship with both parents
+domestic, knows how to cook
+clean room
+feminine style
+physically healthy/fit
+loves kids
+fiscally responsible
+practices kindness (not niceness)
+reads books
+Grace
+Kind eyes.
"The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light" - Matthew 6:22
Red Flags for men
🚩Doesn't own a suit after 27yo
🚩Out of shape
🚩Lives w/parents after 30yo
🚩Blames others
🚩No mission
🚩Indecisive
🚩Emotionally & physically weak
🚩Passive-aggressive
🚩Very bad style
🚩Incessant with video games/TV shows
🚩Inactive
🚩Pushover
🚩Complains often
🚩Doesn't give his full presence
🚩Bad familial relationships
What high value men want from their Wife:
+Cooking skills
+Clean for him
+Be pleasant, warm, sweet
+Don't be argumentative
+Don't be crude
+Stay thin
+Don't disrespect him in public
+Support him
+Be a great mother
+Minimal nagging and complaining
Treat your man like a king to be adored as a queen
Any man that has a problem going for what he wants is not a man. He’s a boy.
If you’re in the stage of life looking a serious partner/marriage and he’s not making serious moves, move on to find someone who is ready to be serious. Yes, you’ll hurt feelings, but you need to do what’s best for you long term. A little pain in the short term is better than more pain later and wasted time.
On heartbreak:
It’s unlikely but someday, you may have your heart broken from a man. Obviously that man is a fool, and another lucky chap will have the opportunity of a lifetime. You are a special and amazing girl. You should know that sometimes, the heartbroken girl betrays herself.
Self-esteem shattered, feeling unpretty - she degenerately spirals & some women start finding other men in an attempt to salvage their self-esteem.
In the long run, this only hurts her even more.
To feel pretty again go to the spa, not the club.
Know that you can call me anytime. I’m always here for you. If I’m no longer on Earth, your Mom is very smart about these things. Also know praying is really helpful. We love you so much.
Some Men Are Dangerous:
Young women need to be aware of their surroundings. When traveling, do so with friends. I also recommend carrying a self-defense tool. (at least pepper spray)
Without a tool, there’s very little you can do against a dangerous man.
Your gut instincts are your best self-defense. Listen to your body and avoid dangerous spaces.
On the Nature of Women: (to help you understand your nature)
Women desire these traits in men:
Singular focused
Emotionally stable
Protective
Women find the following attractive about men:
Physical Appearance
Confidence
Protection
"Why is nature called mother nature, why is nature feminine?"
They're both beautiful, destructive, unreasonable, whimsical and never cease to test you.
Both ruthlessly destroy whatever is unable to survive them, and yet both nurture and give life to everything surrounding us. (from @tellyoursonthis)
Environment:
Everything is programming,
Music
Visuals
Reading
Be very very conscientious of the information you consume
You will ALWAYS become it
Your diet isn't just what you eat:
It’s what you watch
It’s what’s you read
It’s what you listen to
Be mindful of whom you spend your time with. Your environment shapes you much more than you know.
Don't keep promiscuous friends, they will try to corrupt you
If it is not making you happier, healthier, or calmer, or having better relationships, or wealthier, then what good is it? It's useless. You can safely discard it. - Naval
You wouldn't waste precious time and energy
worrying about WHAT people think about you
if you realized that:
a. they rarely do think about you,
b. and when they do, it is usually brief - without much care -
c. because people are too busy obsessing over THEIR OWN lives.
Happy people don't bully people.
Positive energy = inspired = building.
Negative energy = resentful = destroying.
Happy people build up, unhappy people tear down.
It really is this simple
Almost everyone you meet that’s successful is helpful, kind, and has good energy. You know who brings the poison vibes, negativity & fills the air with doubt? People who haven’t accomplished much. It’s no coincidence. Steer clear of pessimistic people. Keep up on the Sunny Side my Sweetie.
What is happiness
"Happiness" :
Free Expression of Thoughts
Abundant Use of Talents and Strengths
Nature
Challenging work
Personal Growth
Real Relationships
Good Physical Health
Calm Mind
Impacting Lives
Meaning
Living in Your 20’s:
Find 3 hobbies
one that keeps you fit
one that makes you money
one that hones creativity
Be a hit at any party
1) Don't talk much about yourself
2) Actually listen to other people when they talk
3) Genuinely compliment others
4) Remember people's names and use them
5) Dress well.
On Investing:
Invest early - time is crucial
Invest 10 - 20% of your income. Buy assets (Stocks,property,cryptocurrency) or reinvest in your business.
Avoid fiscally irresponsible people. Never marry one or otherwise give him access to your money.
Avoid money managers. It’s your money and no one will care for it better than you.
Avoid debt.(only mortgage)
The greater the percent of your income you save and invest, the sooner you’ll have financial freedom.
Realize the market and the value of your shares will sometimes drop dramatically. People all around you will panic. They’ll be screaming Sell, Sell, Sell. Ignore this. Even better: Buy more shares.
The less you need, the more free you are.
Questions to see if you ready to invest in your first house:
Will I live here for 5+ years?
Is my total monthly housing cost lower than 28% of gross monthly income?
Have I saved a 20% down payment?
Am I OK if the value of my house goes down?
Am I excited about buying?
If “Yes” to all, it’s a good sign you’re ready to buy.
Raising your son:
Encourage him to be true, set his sights at the good, the beautiful, and then focus carefully on the concerns of each moment. Encourage your son to do what is right, and to strive to have his back while he is doing so.
Teach boys courage, composure, grit, determination & focus. No need to discuss emotions in the moment. That can come later. In the moment - the task takes precedence. Tempted to take the discomfort away? No. Otherwise, we cannot grow.
This is how fathers parent.And it's beautiful.
Treat your Husband Well:
Treat him as if he were a king or world redeeming hero. Take care of him physically. Appreciate him. Communicate with him.
Raising your daughter:
Stand by her, listen to her, care for her, train her mind, and let her know it’s OK if she wants to be a mother. Encourage her in everything she wants to courageously do. Also include a genuine appreciation for the fact of her femininity calling to include and recognize the importance of having a family and children.
Appreciate your Parents:
Act such that your actions justified the suffering they endured. Remember all the sacrifices, love your parents and your grandparents. Be grateful for all the progress that has been made.
How to Be a Better Writer:
From Scott Adams:
Books To Read:
How to fail at almost everything and still win big by Scott Adams
How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie.
Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill
The Almanac of Naval Ravikant
The Power of Positive Thinking - by Norman Vincent Peele
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki
1984 by George Orwell
On The Shortness of Life by Seneca
Tiger Mom Amy Chua
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